Sunday, December 12, 2010

A Night with the Girls

For those of you who don't know, last Friday I spent my entire evening talking to a group of high school girls about the importance of purity. I mentioned something about this in a previous post, click here to see it.

Anyway, I think the night went well. It started off with eating dinner, and fellowship. There was a ton of food, and the girls were so welcoming.
Everyone getting food.

I brought chocolate chocolate chip cake.

The few of the young women.
After dinner, we all shared prayer requests and prayed. Then it was my time to speak. I shared my testimony, and then had a few things I wanted to share about sex, modesty, and purity. I will post my notes here below.

When I was done speaking, the girls talked and asked questions about the topics I brought up. After a few hours, parents started to come and pick up the girls. It was an amazing night full of food, fellowship, love, God, and good girl talk! I loved being in a room with so many young women! I love being married, but I do not get enough good girl time! I think I got my fix for a while now. ;)
Marshi, the Bible study's leader, and me.

If you would like to hear my testimony, I would LOVE to tell you! Just leave me a comment, or give me a call.


"Notes for Purity Talk
v  I’ve been told that I can be completely transparent with you women, so I’m not going to hold anything back. I will be honest and upfront with you, so if you have any questions, at anytime, just let me know. I’ll answer them.
v  Read Testimony.
v  I’d like to talk with you about a few topics: sex, modesty, and purity.
v  I’m sure you all know that having sex outside of marriage is a sin, and not part of God’s plan. But do you know why?
Ø  First off, our world has turned sex into a dirty thing… it’s not! Sex was God’s idea, He created it! Genesis 2:18-25 “24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” They were walking around the garden naked for goodness sake!
Ø  Another lie in society is that sex is purely physical. That you could have sex with tons of people and there are no consequences. Sex is far more than physical: It’s to make babies, for fun, for celebration, and glorification. (Does sex outside marriage glorify God?) Sex is incredibly emotional too, especially for women. Sex outside marriage creates emotional (and possibly physical) baggage that is taken into marriage. Marriage is already tough enough without extra baggage.
Ø  I hear this questions all the time, “If you never kissed him how did you know if he was a good kisser or not! I also hear, “I need to have sex with my boyfriend, how else will I find out if he’s good at sex or not?” My husband is the only man I have ever kissed or had sex with, I have nothing to compare him to; therefore, he is the best kisser and other things in the world! I think that’s part of God’s plan for sex. If you don’t have sex outside of marriage, the sex you have when you are married will be wonderful because you have nothing to compare it to!
Ø  The Bible’s Hebrew word for sex is “yada.” Yada means “known, recognized, understood, and respected.” It’s used in reference to a man and wife having sex and in reference to a person being in deep fellowship with God. It’s something to think about…
Ø  Any questions about sex?
v  Modesty… if you are anything like me, I was sick and tired of hearing about the importance of modesty…. As a result, I’ll keep this short, but the thing is, it is important. Maybe not as much for us women, but definitely for the guys out there!
Ø  Letter to Girls from the Boys of Superchic[k]
Ø  Letter from Justin
Ø   “I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes.” --1 Timothy 2:9
Ø  Mrs. March talking to Meg about being more than just a pretty face.
Ø  Any questions about modesty?
v  When it comes to purity, the most common question is “How far is too far?” But a better question to ask is “How can I honor God with my relationship?”
Ø  A great way to honor God is to follow these few steps, I followed them, and thought they may be difficult, they will pay off in the end:
§  Give your physical life to God.
·         2 Timothy 2:22 “Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.”
§  Establish your boundaries BEFORE you start dating! If you’re already dating, it’s not too late to establish boundaries.
·         Boundary/TLW Pass out flyer and do it!
§  Tell your boyfriend/date upfront where you draw the line.
·          It’s awkward, but essential. When Justin found out about my promise, he helped me keep it. When I was weak, he would be strong and say we shouldn’t kiss. If your guy isn’t willing to be supportive, move on. It’s tough, but YOU ARE WORTH IT! It may also seem like there aren’t any good guys out there, but trust me, they are. God may still be preparing him for you.
§  Get accountability.
·         This was important for Justin and I. If we weren’t accountable to someone, it was a lot easier to give in and do things we shouldn’t. Meet up with a mentor, or your mom, or even another Christian girlfriend once a month and let her know what is going on in your relationship.
§  Last, pray about your relationship!
·         God is the best listener, and he always has the best plan for you. Justin and I would pray together about our relationship. We would also do a weekly devotional. This was incredible for our relationship. (Intent to marry?)
Ø  Purity is more than just not having sex before marriage. It is about keeping our minds and hearts pure too.
Ø  “Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” –Romans 12:1-2
Ø  Any questions about purity?
v  My youth pastor once told me, “We’re all preachers; and our influence, our reputation, will be more powerful to our non-believing friends that almost every sermon they will ever hear in a church building.” I didn’t really take this to heart until a couple months ago when I got this Facebook message out of the blue.
Ø  Read Josiah’s note.
Any Questions?"

1 comment:

  1. Megan, I love your transparency, honesty, and courage. What an encouragement reading this has been. I'm glad that you are in these girls' lives. :)

    I remember having my view on sex totally changed by this message, and I thought I'd share it with you, too!